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Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence

May 21st, 2018

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Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey YandowWhether we are talking about food, movies or even bathing suits one thing is for sure, I know what I like and I stick to it, end of story. Call it being stubborn, boring or self-aware, in the end, I always choose the food I know I’ll like, no vegan food here, the movies I know won’t give me nightmares, and the fit of a suit that will make me feel confident and covered on the beach. I mean trends are great for inspiration and adaptation but feeling confident is all about having the right fit, am I wrong? 

For the longest time, I never shared pictures of myself in bathing suits on my feed or on this platform because I’m a conservative person by nature. I like midi skirts over minis, I’ve never owned a crop top I haven’t returned and I live by a good turtleneck for most of the year. So in previous years, whenever swim season came along I always dreaded finding a new suit, because there wasn’t a ton of options for one-piece suits in general. Until this year…

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Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

I’m going to be truthfully transparent in this post because I think finding your confidence on the beach has way more to do with knowing your own body and knowing what works for you, fit wise, more than anything else. So let’s break down my body, shall we? I’m 5′ 2”, size 6 and around 125 pounds, give or take a few pounds depending on the week. I carry most of my weight in my derriere and have proportional but petite limbs. Which brings me to why I like a one piece. 

The main reasons why I like a good one piece is that it contains my backend business to put it lightly. I use to feel so self-conscience about my butt hanging out, especially with the low rise bottoms that were usually paired with my two piece swim sets. Honestly, I could care less about the status of my stomach but was oh so obsessed with the concern of my bathing suit bottoms falling off! I mean I was like a serial flasher at the beach, from just simply jumping off the boat or getting hit with a big wave somehow someway, I felt embarrassed. 

Now once, I hit college and found myself spending more time at the beach in San Diego, I turned towards one-piece swimsuits. By college I knew my body, I knew what I was anxious about before heading to the beach and I purchased swimsuits accordingly. I mean this small switch in mindset about purchasing bathing suits on fit over trend, made all the difference for me and finding my beach confidence. The moment I found a one piece that allowed me to be active and move without concern, was the moment I felt my most carefree and myself on the beach. 

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Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

Let’s say your stomach is something that concerns you, style this classic red peplum tankini top or let’s say you want to keep your bellybutton incognito like Taylor Swift did way back when…just try out this high waisted French inspired swimsuit. Or maybe you want to show off your rock solid abs, take this one piece with side cutouts for a spin. You get my point, but now more than ever we have almost unlimited choices when it comes to swimsuit fits so why not take advantage of it and try something different. 

Before heading on my most recent trip to Costa Rica, I decided to give their Playa collection a spin. I loved how this specific collection showed off skin in the back while still covering up the majority of my butt. Not only was it a little sexier than your average one piece but it also had high cut legs which make my little 5’2” legs look a little more 5’6” in person. I kid, I kid. Okay but really, in the end, it comes down to finding flattering fits so take some time and check out some of the bathing suits I’ve linked below. I’ll be damned before I hear another gal pass about a beach trip because they aren’t beach ready. I mean I’m never beach ready, in fact, I’m headed to McDonald’s right now to get a quick lunch before working some more, but I’m always ready for the beach. Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

I’d love to hear from you now, what is something you’ve felt insecure about and how do you turn the tables on your insecurities to feel confident at the beach? Let me know below and love you all. xx Aubrey

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A Colorful Gingham Maxi Skirt, In Quepos

May 18th, 2018

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Okay, this is it guys, we are heading into our final week of Costa Rica content before we dive deep into New England summer and the color pallet that ensues. Shooting in Costa Rica really motivated me to bring new colors schemes onto this platform and my wardrobe. From teal bathing suits to pink jumpsuits, my suitcase was more colorful than a bag of skittles and for once I embraced it. 

The other day I talked about visors and retro-inspired attire and this post is kicking off on the same note. The brand Whit was kind enough to loan me some pieces from their newest collection to shoot on location and I instantly jumped at the offer. With the brand’s simple structures and retro-feminine details, I knew Whitney’s designs would be both elegant and fun to shoot in the jungle of Quepos. From the moment I opened the press booklet, I knew I had to share this gingham piece

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I love a gingham moment, more than my bank account would like to admit. I’m just a sucker for gingham skirts and this year the trend is alive and more colorful than ever. Now usually I keep my gingham to neutral colors but recently I’ve been purchasing gingham hues left and right. Actually, scroll down to the bottom of this post to see a full range of colorful gingham maxi skirts. I mean, maxi skirts are one of my favorite pieces to travel with because not only do they hide any uneven tan-lines but they also are super light and cooling. 

Anyway if you’re trying to stock up your closet with colorful gingham maxi skirts or just trying to add some color to your current wardrobe I have you covered. Just shop the options below and make sure to follow along with us over on Instagram to see more gingham looks coming to life soon! 

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Protect Your Skin This Summer With Visors

May 14th, 2018
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Happy Monday guys! Today I’m sitting down and talking to you all about something I’m really passionate about right now…visor hats. Now, this post is no joke, in fact, I pushed back another post in order to get my passion for stylish visors hats for the beach out there and into the universe. My face doesn’t do too hot in the sun, which is why I’ve always been obsessed with baseball hats. Personally, my face goes from the cute sun-freckled face to a crispy peeling burn very quickly and I’m constantly looking for new ways to protect my face, neck, and chest. Sometimes I sport the stylish beach towel made into a scarf look but in March when I started to see visor hats slowly growing traction on the retail floors, I quickly decided I’d test them out.
 
In fact, it was the perfect timing, I could test out the new visor trend for you all pre-summer while in Costa Rica and bring back some feedback. So I went to a few different retailers and ended up buying a total of three visors in all different styles and price points. Now, when I first pulled this visor out of the shopping bag Matt had comments left and right. I may have gotten a few bingo jokes, maybe a handful of shuffleboard puns and a large dosage of Florida gags but that didn’t stop me. As I said above I’m pretty anti-sunning when it comes to my face, neck, shoulders, and chest and my Mom’s always been big on sun protection. It only took me suffering from a wicked sunburn on my feet, a few summers back, to get me obsessed with sun protection and hydration. 
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Basically, when it comes to sun protection a visor trumps the classic baseball hat any day, especially when on vacation. Not only can you use it to capture the perfect 60’s palm beach aesthetic you’ve always been hoping for, but you also get so much more protection from the sun. The visor not only covers your face from the sun but also your neck, shoulders, and chest! When I headed to the beach during the sunniest part of the day I always brought my large visor but for quick trips to the beach, I packed this retro-styled one. And guess what, between the three visors my face never got burnt once! 
 
I’d love to hear from you guys. Do you think you could pull off a visor or would want to? I mean I’m all for it and if you do go out and buy a visor make sure to tweet me a picture, so I can check out your retro style. On that note can you believe summer is almost here, I can’t wait to start hitting the New England coastline with my Jack Rogers and visors in hand. I hope to see you guys there! xx Aubrey 
 
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How To Stop Overpacking: Why Jumpsuits Are My Secret Weapon

May 7th, 2018

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At the start of the year, I told you guys this would be Matt and I’s year of travel and I was by no means over exaggerating. From San Francisco to Costa Rica we’ve quite literally been non-stop traveling since January and I must say, no matter how far we travel, my family and I always seem to come back to Costa Rica. From its lush green landscape to its abundance of wildlife, I’d strongly stand behind Costa Rica as my favorite tropical destination.

Now with this being our fifth trip of 2018, I must say I’ve finally gotten into a grove when it comes to packing, unpacking and most importantly avoiding my downfall, over packing. I never regret over packing until I get back home, or as I like to call it the post-vacation wreck when I’m dealing with double the dry cleaning, laundry loads and my least favorite part double the folding, hanging and steaming. I avoid laundry like the plague, on a daily basis, but by using these few packing tactics I’ve listed off below, I’ve single-handedly solved the packing epidemic. Now, let me introduce you to my secret weapon…the jumpsuit.

I mean, the jumpsuit is my secret weapon but before you use the secret weapon you need to have your ducks in a row. First and foremost the easiest way to reduce the possibility of over packing is by packing the bare necessities as the Jungle Book says. I always lay out my vacation outfit options on top of my bed before placing anything in my suitcase. By visually being able to see everything I’m about to roll up into my suitcase, helps me eliminate useless pieces and minimizes the laundry on the flipside. 

 

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Next, I pack everything into packing cubes, which I’ve talked about obsessively before in this YouTube video. I live by my packing cubes and I wish I had used them while I was traveling in college, but you live and learn. Anyway, I usually pack my cubes one per vacation day and even label them with a list of exactly what is in the cubes. I mean you’d be surprised to see the extraordinary amount of clothes that can fit in those little zip-up bags. Oh and don’t forget to pack a laundry bag in your suitcase, just throw all your dirty clothes into the bag throughout vacation and this tactic will cut down cleanup time when you arrive home. Just dump the bag into the wash, no hassle. 

Okay finally, let’s talk about why jumpsuits are my secret weapon when it comes to packing.  I kind of went overboard with jumpsuits on this trip, bringing exactly four for my seven day trip to Costa Rica but let me tell you they are a god sent.  I’ve never had such a deflated suitcase, usually, my suitcase is bursting by the seams but since jumpsuits are a one-step outfit, I was able to leave behind pieces that take up more space in my luggage like jeans and skirts. Not to mention jumpsuits are so low maintenance, I never once had to pull out my steamer as they all traveled incredibly well AND the best part, they are all non-dry cleanable. So when you get home just throw them in the wash on cold and they are as good as new. 

I’ll basically do anything to cut down my dry cleaning bill and if jumpsuits are the way so be it. 

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Okay now, let’s talk about this outfit! I use to avoid jumpsuits because of my height being on the more petite side, but recently I’ve given them a second chance, and have come to find that they are a packing god sent. Just like dresses, jumpsuits are a one-piece solution to your night out. In the past, I would have automatically picked a dress over a jumpsuit but today I’ve fallen in love with the retro 40’s cut jumpsuits that are hitting the retail floors. With a high waistline and signature, boat legged cut these suits are classic, elegant and paying an homage to one of my favorite style decades. 

The night before heading to Costa Rica, Matt and I ran out to Walmart at 11:00 PM to grab some last minute sunscreen when I stumbled into this jumpsuit. Ringing up just under $20 I knew it was perfect for my trip and if I do say so myself, olive always looks great on me so the color instantly sold me. I played off of the 40’s retro cut by adding a visor and letting my hair naturally curl. Now I’d love to hear from you what packing tricks do you live by? Let me know below. 

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Pajama Set Sleepwear

May 4th, 2018
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If we’re being transparent here I spend more time in my pajamas than the average person. Whether I’m having a ‘casual pajama day’ while working from home or just slipping into my pajamas at 6 PM after a busy day of photo shoots, I value nothing more than being comfortable and cozy while at home. In fact, if you’ve visited my house it’s more likely than not that you’ve seen me open the door in my pajamas. It’s a horrible trait of mine but I can’t let a door go unopen. Now usually the pajamas I’d be hanging around in were the most unflattering pajamas known to mankind. I basically looked like Cousin It, as you’d find me collecting old XXL college t-shirts to wear to bed along with my go-to pair of dark grey sweatpants. I looked like a walking blob, so when I started to pack for my trip to Costa Rica a few weeks back, I knew it was time to invest in some pajama sleepwear
 
I decided to invest in new sleepwear for a few reasons…first off I knew I needed something lighter to wear to bed while in Costa Rica. Between dealing with 100% humidity and temperatures in the high 80’s, I knew I needed to leave my sweatpants behind and wear something respectable that wouldn’t scare the thirteen other people I’d be traveling with. Honestly, my tees were getting way too old and a little holey anyway, soooo I made an executive decision to forgo any wardrobe malfunctions and find some affordable pajama sets.
 
 
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Pajama Set Sleepwear | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Pajama Set Sleepwear | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
 So fast forward to two days before the trip when I’m frantically online shopping, and searching for a lightweight pajama set when I stumble upon the above set on sale for just $20.99. I think to myself perfect and order a few pairs, one for myself and one for my sister just in case she’s stuck in between a rock and an old holey pajama place. Not only was the price point affordable but the quality of this pajama set was just as good. In fact, the moment I got back from my trip, I went as far as to order another two pairs of pajamas for our upcoming summer travel. 
 
I knew I wanted to share my pajama set epiphany with you all, so early Wednesday morning Tessa and I woke up extra early to sip on a fresh pot of coffee and watch the sunrise. You guys know I’m not much of an early riser but having this peaceful moment with Tessa on our bedroom patio before the start of what would be a jam-packed day was ideal. We sipped our coffee in our matching pajama sets and watched as squirrel monkeys swung from the trees and birds of paradise flew towards the shore.
 
 
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Pajama Set Sleepwear | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
If you’re heading on a group trip soon or just looking to up your pajama style, I’ve linked some of my favorite prints and affordable pajama sets currently available below. 
 
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Fishing in Quepos, Costa Rica

April 30th, 2018

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I mean, where do I begin with this post. I guess let’s start from the beginning, with how I ended up fishing in the first place. If you read my blog, which I hope you guys do, then you know last week I went to Costa Rica with a large group of thirteen. It was composed of my family, Matt’s family, two of my cousins and Matt’s sister’s boyfriend CJ. Way back in December when my Dad and I first starting planning the trip, and booking excursions, like our day in Manuel Antonio National Park, which you can read about here, we reached out to Matt’s family to see what activities they’d be interested in. Instantly CJ and Jessica responded with inquiries about fishing options. Both CJ and Jessica love fishing, from ice fishing in New Hampshire to fishing tournaments around New England, they were excited to take their fishing skills international, and I’m usually down for whatever might result in dynamic blog pictures.

On top of his love for fishing, CJ explained to me that Costa Rica’s warm Pacific water provides an ideal environment for fish like Sailfish, Mahi Mahi, Yellowfin Tuna, Marlin and most importantly the Roosterfish. Again, I really didn’t care about fishing and to my knowledge, it seemed like it would be a leisurely activity so my Dad and I signed everyone up for the excursion and then things got interesting. 

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Again since we were such a big group of thirteen we ended up needing three boats. Boat one was assembled by my Dad, my Mom, Tessa and I. We instantly called ourselves the leisure boat or as I like to call it the blog boat. Boat two was assembled by my brother, my two cousins, and Matt. We thought this would be the helpless boat, as neither my brother nor Matt knows how to fish, so this boat was relying on Olivia and Bernadette, my two cousins to get all the fish. Boat number three was assembled of CJ, Jessica, Matt’s parents and Ryan (Matt’s brother). We called this boat the competitive boat because both CJ and Jessica are competitive fishers and we thought for sure they would have the most success. So we all boarded our boats and went our separate ways, and it was all downhill from there. 

So back to my boat, the four of us boarded our boat and our captain, who speaks only Spanish thank goodness for my AP Spanish years, asks me what fish we are after. My Dad instantly says Roosterfish as that was the fish CJ and Jessica were most excited to catch, due to the fact that it was regional to Costa Rica. Little did we know what we had just signed up for. I mean stay with me here it gets good. Boat number two requested to go fishing for Mahi Mahi and boat number three requested to do both.

Okay, fast forward two hours into our five-hour fishing shenanigans, aka the moment I was starting to relate to the Life of Pi book in all the wrong ways. Sitting on our boat with our three fishing lines out to sea with no bites, no shade, and gigantic ocean waves was making me crispy. And guys I was literally crispy so sunburnt and dehydrated, to say the least. The four of us rotated taking breaks from our non-active fishing lines to shoot some blog photos, while our boat was rocking and rolling with waves fit for the movie Castaway. Finally three hours into fishing we caught our first bite. We get our cameras ready to see the fish but again the joke is on us because these fish are big, beautiful and strong. Long story short, It took us over an HOUR to reel in the fish…I repeat an HOUR! Okay now we are on hour three, we finally see the fish get our picture taken with her release her back to see. Around this time I mentally decided to retire from my fishing career. 

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But our captain says we must persist so Tessa and I head to the front of the boat and snap more pictures before arriving at our next reef to fish at. By hour four we are the definition of a hot mess. The waves are getting rockier, the sweat is unmanageable and the sun is set at high noon. As Tessa and I were huddled at the front of the boat looking for shade we synonymously get hit by a few big waves. Tessa and I are officially done and are trying to figure out how to get this boat to shore when I couldn’t hold it down any longer.

 Just like that, I turn around and threw up everything I had eaten for what felt like the last four days. It was rough, it was gross but we ended up catching one more Roosterfish, which Matt attuned to my chum #gross. Anyway, we ended up catching and releasing two Roosterfishes which is almost unheard of within our five hour time fishing. Apparently, you could go out fishing for a Roosterfish and end up with nothing at all.

We were happy our sweat, throw up and dedication resulted in at least two beautiful fish. As soon as hour five struck our boat headed back in towards the docks and the four of us were exhausted, sunburnt and drenched in sweat as we waited for the other boats to pull in. Low and behold boat number two pulls in with my brother, Matt and my two cousins. They ended up catching a total of 23 little fishes as the group decided to skip the entire concept of Rooster fishing and settle on more of a booze cruise than my Life of Pi adventures. Actually head over to Instagram stories to see the fish Matt caught vs the fish we caught, I mean our experiences could not have been different. I was on deadliest catch and he was on below deck, to put it nicely. 

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Even though I don’t think I’ll be jumping on the opportunity to fish anytime soon, it was a memorable day, to say the least. Oh and I felt like my outfit was on point for the excursion. I wore this tiered gingham vineyard vines beach dress on top of this bathing suit, oh and don’t forget a big floppy hat for sun protection. Without that hat, I would have turned into one gigantic sunburn. All and all Quepos Costa Rica is one of the most beautiful places I’ve been and I honestly can’t wait to share more pictures with you guys soon. 

Okay, now I want to hear from you! Do you guys like fishing and if so where is your favorite place to catch fish? Let me know in the comment section below. 

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A Day In Manuel Antonio National Park

April 23rd, 2018

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Matt and I are finally back in Dallas after a whirlwind of a week in Costa Rica. If you were wondering what the heck we were doing there, we were actually on a combined family vacation! The vacation included both my family, Matt’s family and a few extended family members… because more is merrier, right? All in all, we were a group of thirteen exploring the county and taking in its culture one restaurant at a time. 
 
To give you guys some context, our families decided on rented a house together in Quepos, Costa Rica which was an area neither of our families had visited yet. We decided on this location after hearing how it was renowned for its diversity of wildlife and active fishing community. Oddly enough,  I’ve been to Costa Rica a total of five times now, and I’ve still never covered any of my trips or travels to Costa Rica on The Coastal Confidence platform, until now. When I first found out I was heading back and my sister/videographer/photographer/god-sent, Tessa, would be my roommate I knew it was time to capture that Costa Rica content. & oh boy did she agree.
 
My sister and I had the best time exploring Costa Rica and capturing its beautiful wildlife and scenic sights for you all, I’m already giddy about the upcoming posts hitting the blog over the next couple of weeks. Anyway, we kicked off our trip with a walk through Manuel Antonio National Park, and we took the camera with us to bring you all along. 
 

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Our group got into Costa Rica late Saturday night and woke up bright and early on Sunday to visit Manuel Antonio National Park before the crowds rolled in. I always recommend heading to National Parks, actually any park for that matter, on the earlier side, especially if you are interested in seeing wildlife, as they are often more active and social first thing in the morning. When we decided on this tour we knew we had to hire a tour guide, so we could learn more about the history and animals of the region. The National Park is, of course, available to visit without a guide but our guide went out of his way to show us the unique creatures of Costa Rica. I mean, he was able to spot out animals almost invisible to the human eye, like that little frog in its home featured above. Yes, he spotted that frog and pointed him out so casually, and if you can’t see the frog in the above tree picture, zoom in!    
 
Before I get too ahead of myself, let me tell you a little bit about Manuel Antonio National Park. This beautiful National Park is located on Costa Rica’s central Pacific coast, which is just darn beautiful. The park is filled to the brim with flourishing rainforests, white-sandy beaches, and is home to some of the most diverse wildlife around. I had heard, from Google reviews obviously, that the park was known for its vast diversity of tropical plants and wildlife, but was shocked how many different animals we actually got to see up close and personal.

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At first, I was really unsure of my wardrobe choice, I mean I wasn’t sure how difficult this walking tour would be and my sandals, while comfortable, are the least practical footwear for a hike. Although I’d gladly risk a wiping out in order to capture that great content though. Anyway, I was pleasantly surprised at how enjoyable and leisurely the hiking tour was. You could bring young children, elders, or just people like me in unfavorable hiking shoes with no problems what so ever. We walked along a gently pebbled covered path within this tropical forest that allowed us to get closer to Costa Rica’s wildlife then I’ve ever been before. 
 
Not only did we see both the two-toed and three-toed sloths, which Costa Rica is known for, but we also saw the endangered white-faced capuchin monkeys and the buck didn’t stop there. From poisonous frogs to rare bird species the park’s multiple terrains allowed us to get a real feel for Costa Rica’s animal population. Oh and don’t get me started about the beach hidden inside of the National Park. I’ve NEVER seen a more beautiful beach than the one hidden within the Manuel Antonio National Park. From pure white sand to crystal blue water, I couldn’t resist a swim. Post outfit photo taking of course. 
 
Now let’s digress a little bit and talk about this outfit! The moment I saw this dress, I knew it would look beautiful against the lush backgrounds Costa Rica has to offer. With an all over eyelet design and the feminine detail in the flutter sleeves, made this dress the ideal dress for vacation wear or for anyone’s upcoming graduation! I know this dress will be a staple of mine as we head into New England summer especially as it’s perfect to wear during the day and easy to transition into the night. 
 
I’m going to break down a lot of my travel style hacks over the next couple of weeks but one that I live by is traveling with accessories that can be dressed up or down, like this hat and tote. You’re going to see several blog posts with these pieces being styled in different ways from evening wear to lying on the beach in a bathing suit, traveling with versatile accessories will make your outfits pop. Anyone else agrees? 
 

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Costa Rica Wildlife at Manuel Antonio National Park | The Coastal Confidence Aubrey Yandow-5297
Costa Rica Wildlife at Manuel Antonio National Park | The Coastal Confidence Aubrey Yandow-5481

Overall we spent the better half of Saturday morning exploring the park in what seemed to be 100 degrees. The sweat was rolling so when we finally made it to the beach the cool breeze and scenic views allowed us to cool off and go for a dip. I had packed a bathing suit inside of my tote, and thank goodness I did. I slipped it on underneath my dress and dove into the crystal clear water for a break. It was the best way to start off the vacation and it’s was actually my favorite travel excursions I’ve done so far in Costa Rica. Maybe because it’s the most leisurely and I’m all about taking life slow and capturing nature when on vacation. 
 
Okay, so I’d love to hear from you! Have you been to Costa Rica? If so what part and what excursion was your favorite? I can’t wait to hear from you guys and continue to bring you along. 

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How to create your own sense of style

September 18th, 2017

How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

Lilly Pulitzer Dress c/o || Earrings (under $25!) || Shoes || Bag || Lipstick

The other day I got a DM on Instagram from a TCC reader with a great question. She asked how to create your own sense of style, when the brand’s your peers are currently coveting aren’t really up your alley. 

Right after reading this DM, I sat down to write this post because I once had this personal dilemma in college. I grew up in Connecticut and embraced classic American Style until I decided to go to college in San Diego. 

& oh boy guys, did my personal style go down a windy road once I was living full time in California. 

How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

All of a sudden I was being introduced to brands I’d once never heard of, which is an amazing experience. My roommates taught me all about WildfoxBrandy MelvilleLF Stores[lfstores.com] and of course Free People; serious 70’s California vibes. 

& oh was I excited. My personal style went from zero to one hundred here, I went from a classic Jackie Kennedy look, think Lilly Pulitzer, to the California extreme of maxi skirts, crop top sweaters and dare I say vintage Nirvana band tees.


Who was I… 

Looking back I can’t believe I wore some of the items I did, they were so NOT me, BUT they are a part of who I am today! By having fun and embracing the California clothing style and lifestyle, I’m where I am today. 

Now I digress, just because you try something out doesn’t mean you have to commit. So after a year of boho Free People Dresses and graphic tees; I packed up my suitcase and headed back East for summer.

Once summer break was in full swing and my duffle bags of vintages tees arrived in Connecticut, I realized it just wasn’t me. I wanted to go back to wearing brands and cuts of style that made me feel like, well ME!How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

I think finding a sense of style, is kind of like finding a sense of self…

To deep? I’m not kidding though, my blog is about embracing New England lifestyle which includes a clothing style; it’s part of who I am and who New Englanders are in their roots. 

Just like how Texans love Wrangler Jeans and Californians rock Brandy Melville bralettes left and right.

Your style tells a story and speaks to a culture you relate too. This whole experience actually promoted me to start the TCC, to help you guys embrace a New England lifestyle no matter where you are or what stage of life you’re in. 

& guys, style is meant to be fun and fluid, just because you like bell-bottom jeans today doesn’t mean you have to sign a marriage license to them tomorrowHow to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

So TCC Reader my advice on how to create your own sense of style when the brand’s your peers are currently coveting aren’t really up your alley, is to dress for YOURSELF! 

Yeah sure, sometimes I looked overdressed walking to class in this Lilly Dress, amongst San Diego yogis and beach babes but I felt darn good and that’s what mattered to me. 

I can vividly remember arriving back in San Diego for my sophomore year of college, Lilly Dresses and Vineyard Vines Shep Shirts in hand with roommates asking to borrow the dresses for dates or special occasions. Bringing something different to the table, style wise, was fun for both parties. 

Anyway, finding your own style is totally trial and error and it still is for me today. To this day my closet has elements of California and New England, you’d be surprised how many preppy pieces I find in Urban Outfitters of all places, while in CA, like this dress I just purchased. 

Overall, don’t worry about brands or labels, in fact, pulling a piece no one else has purchased might inspire others to take the preppy style out for a spin. As long as you wear your outfit with confidence and grace, you’ll fit in just find. 

Okay, that’s my experience and tips, I’d love to hear any advice you guys might have for creating your own sense of style. xx Aubrey How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to create your own sense of style | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

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How to make long distance work

August 30th, 2017
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
 
Hey I’ve recently gotten a lot of readers reaching out about one topic specifically, how to make long distance work…in college. & oh have I been there, and done that. For anyone that doesn’t know, Matt (my long term boyfriend) and I have held a relationship for 8 years, HOWEVER, four of those years were via a long distance relationship. I actually attended college in San Diego while Matt attended college in New York, so I’m talking about cross-country long distance, OH BOY. 
 
Before going any further, like every relationship post, I always encourage you to do what works for you, and I’m in no way saying what I did is the right way, but here’s my experience with the touchy topic that is long distance. 
 

How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
& like the OCD college note-taker in me, I’ve made a syllabus to help break the process down.
 
A) Distance DOESN’T Always Make the Heart Grow Fonder…
 
First off, let’s debunk one of those old-wives tales, aka, distance makes the heart grow fonder.  I get why people feel this way, and I believe this phrase is completely true for short time periods. It’s exciting going out in the world and having your own experience to bring back to the table, and it’s SO FUN reuniting and catching up like two peas in a pod.
 
Whenever I’m traveling for a shoot or to visit friends, without Matt, it’s fun and exciting to reconnect after one to three weeks apart; it’s like a relationship cleanse and yes, totally makes the heart grow fonder. BUT two months and up, without seeing each other is a different story. That’s when the debunking comes in because you get into the ‘drifting zone’ and we’ve all been there. How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
B) MOST IMPORTANT: The Drifting Zone…
 
Definition: It’s basically the point of no return, it’s that moment when your friend is telling you a story and you realize you have no idea who, what or where they are talking about. It’s the moment when you’re not able to relate….
 
I’m a firm believer that we have all or will all eventually experience, the drifting zone. Whether it be with a friend, relationship, family member or co-worker; some relationships just aren’t meant to stand the test of time, AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT! I’ve had plenty of friendships fizzle out, it’s just part of life.
 
Let me take a step back if you’re still confused as to what the drifting zone is, I’ll break it down further. Let’s say you’re a sophomore in college, look back at your high school friends, I’m sure there are some you’ve just drifted away from. Drifting is easy, and it’s usually a two-sided issue, and the scariest thing about drifting is that it’s the silent killer of relationships. You’ll always hear about the horrible stories of long distance relationships failing because of cheaters, because of a huge fight or because of jealousy; but to be honest, a lot of long term relationships fail because people just end up drifting apart. 
 
It’s hard having a relationship where your significant other or friend, doesn’t know your college friends, the environment you live in or your schedule/class load. I still to this day, have never been to Matt’s college campus and Matt still to this day hasn’t met all my California friends; which makes some exchange college stories, not as fun or interesting. 
 
So I get a lot of questions about how to prevent drifting and here are a few easy ways: 1) visit each other, 2) facetime and 3) active listening and engagement (get your friends on facetime, actively listen and engage with what they’re saying…always ask questions!). 
 
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
C) Jealous Jelly Bean…
 
By nature I’m not a jealous person, sometimes I think Matt wishes I was more jealous because it’s not an emotion I evoke. I always joked with my friends saying, I’m too focused on myself to spend time being jealous…which sounds horrible but is true. I was way too focused in college on launching my blog to be worried about who Matt was hanging out with on a Friday night or a girl he had a group project with. I had zero worries and my roommates always made fun of me for this, stating I was like the man in the long-term relationship. 
I just had a very relaxed approach to long-distance and I think that came from 1) not being a jealous person but also 2) by being confident in the relationship Matt and I have. We are both very (I hate this word) confrontational people, which meant if our relationship was going to blow up…IT WOULD BE APPARENT. We have very loud, strong and vocal communication skills; but I think that’s why long distance worked for us…if someone wasn’t happy they voiced it! 
 
Anyway, Jealous Jelly Beans are a NO GO for long-distance, and if you’re one of these beans, especially if you don’t like confrontation, then either rethink taking your relationship long-distance or readjust your attitude. How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
D) Conclusion: Keep Me Posted…
 
This was always and still is my go to line with long distance relationships. Keep me posted, was how I ended every phone call. Making yourself available via phone is really important, it’s kind of like being a life coach; if Matt had a group project, interview or test…I wanted to know about it. 
 
If you want to make long distance work than you NEED to stay up to date with current events, and constantly check up on them. No one like a friend that sits there and talks only about themselves, make sure to always stay up to date with what’s going on in your friends like and leave yourself open to hearing about it. 
 
Basically, keep lines of communication mutually beneficial and ACTUALLY LISTEN, because where your attention goes your energy flows! & here’s a NEWSFLASH, long distance takes up both a lot of time and energy so don’t be hasty.How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Make Long Distance Work | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
 
Okay, so that’s my long-distance syllabus for the fall semester. Should I do a second one for spring semester? Let me know below, along with any other tips and tricks you guys have up your sleeves. xx Aubrey 
 
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How to Style a Graphic Tee

August 25th, 2017
 
I was, and still am, a huge fan of graphic tees. Now, just because I’m a fan, doesn’t mean I’m not picky. Sometimes graphic tees can come off, cheesy and almost ‘Limited Too’-ish, but when done right, a graphic tee can really highlight your personality and style.
 
When I was in college, I would constantly come up with new ways to style my tees, whether it be with jeans, leggings, or even tied to the side with shorts; I lived in graphic tees and dresses. Yet no matter what, I always received the most comments when I paired these tees with skirts. 
 
If I learned one thing, throughout my years, it’s to NEVER underestimate the style factor and versatility of a good graphic tee. You can purchase them from basically any brand, and in different styles. For example, this Wildfox white teethis Italian themed graphic tee, and of course this iconic number.
 
How to Style a Graphic Tee | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Style a Graphic Tee | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Style a Graphic Tee | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
Anway, the other day I was running down towards NYC for some TCC meetings and wanted a put-together but youthful business casual look, after all, I’m only 23 and I’m currently planning on avoiding pant suits for as long as possible. So I reached for this skirt, which is a little more understated than my ‘holiday skirt’ (last seen here). 
 
While the skirt screams business, I dressed it down with an age-appropriate graphic tee. I think it’s essential to really embrace both your age and personal style when dressing for campus or work. This also makes it easy to transition from work to play, so after my meetings in Westport, I was able to meet friends at the beach for a quick walk and Starbucks break. 
 
How to Style a Graphic Tee | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Style a Graphic Tee | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Style a Graphic Tee | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
Currently, Matt & I are still in Ireland and I can’t wait to get back to share the images with you all. But until then I’d love to hear how you all style graphic tees. 
 
Do you like layering necklaces? Styling them with jackets and layers or keeping it simple with a pair of blue jeans? Leave all your style details in the comments below. 
 
Anyway, Matt & I are off to our final stop in Ireland…Ashford Castle and I’m beaming with excitement. Make sure to follow us over on Instagram for all the details. xx Aubrey 
 

How to Style a Graphic Tee | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

How to Style a Graphic Tee | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
How to Style a Graphic Tee | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

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