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Being Patient With The Process

June 18th, 2018

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There is A LOT going on in my life at the moment, which sounds so dramatic but it’s a lot of really exciting things, that I can’t wait to open up and share with you all soon! But until then I wanted to sit down, clear my mind and kind of vent about the all too real-life lesson, these big ventures have taught me, but to put it simply, these experiences have truly taught me how to be patient with the process

You know how people always say patience is a virtue, well they weren’t kidding. By nature I’m a pretty patient person…well my Mom, might disagree but with most things I am. I mean, I could never be a teacher but on average if I’m doing something I enjoy I’m pretty content at putting in the hard work or time for the ultimate end goal. Yet as our ventures get bigger the process takes a heck of a lot longer and requires a lot more energy, which is starting to leave me with feelings of unrest and anxiety, more than anything else. Now, overall the whole experience is so odd to me because I’m normally not one to rush ANYTHING, I like to sleep on decisions, run things by Matt; but at the end of the day moving forward and seeing progress is something that pushes me forward. Which brings me to this post, how do you stay motivated, productive and excited about a venture that is so up in the air? 

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I mean in the last thirty days Matt and I have come a long way in this venture, which mind you, we’ve been talking about for an entire year, but we still have a very long way to go and at moments it can still leave me feeling like, ‘what the **** is my direction here’. Now, I, fortunately, have a pretty good gut, which seems to inherently lead me into all sorts of ventures, and while this one has truly tested my patience, I know deep down that this one could be the most stunning, exciting and exhilarating adventure yet. 

Now, I might be digging my own grave while writing this, as we are actually waiting on some big news about the project today, but I just felt like now was the time to sit down and talk this out with you guys. You know they say the best things in life are worth waiting for, and I’m really hoping that’s true as Matt and I have been waiting on a decision that’s been postponed three times, since NOVEMBER, yes NOVEMBER 2017, but I think the universe has a funny way of making things work out. I mean, if the decision had gone through in November there would have been no way we’d have been able to move forward with the venture but after hearing some big news over the last thirty days, we are finally in a position to bring this venture into formation. 

For the longest time I was impatient with the process, wanting to jump the gun and gamble whether we’d be able to commit, but for once the timing feels really right and I guess all we can do now is continue to be patient with the process. After all who knows, the decision they make today could put the whole process to a roaring halt, and send Matt and myself, back to the drawing board, but either way, I’m deciding right now to continue being patient with this process in hopes of reaping the rewards. 

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I’m learning day by day to be patient and enjoy the process, especially since once the light goes green it will be mayhem from there, but I kind of thrive in mayhem is that weird? Anyway, I know no matter what there is a big change happening for Matt and I, just around the river bend, and if it took me four backbreaking patient years, to build this brand then, I know that only good things could come from the eight-month wait Matt and I have been patiently navigating. 

Now let’s talk about this outfit real quick, this dress is everything and it’s a wicked good deal right now so grab one of your own here. I digress, I’d love to hear from you guys! Did you ever experience a time when your patience was tested? How did you maneuver enjoying the process and was it worth it in the end? I love hearing from you so leave your experiences down below. xx Aubrey 

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5 Apps I Can’t Live Without, When It Comes To Running A Blog

June 4th, 2018

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Seven days a week, from 9 AM till 11 PM, I basically never put down my phone. I hate admitting that but it’s the truth, I mean technically I could run my whole business from my phone and who knows, maybe someday I will, you never know. Anway working for myself allows me the freedom to work when I want and where I want, which makes having my phone on hand, organized and charged ideal. Whether I get an email that needs an immediate response or become overwhelmed with a blog post idea and decide to write the post then and there, having my phone present helps me knock out my to-do lists week after week. 

Now, because my phone is kind of like the gateway to my business it’s really essential for me to keep it organized and decluttered. For some reason, I get really easily distracted while using my phone so it’s always important for me to avoid downloading apps that might send me down the rabbit hole, like Facebook, Pinterest, Etsy and a few others. Overall, my iPhone first and foremost helps me run my business, from emails to calendar events, it’s truly a key to my productivity, which brings me to today’s post. Okay, right now I’m bringing you all into my phone and sharing 5 apps I can’t live without when it comes to running a blog! 

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1) Reminders – I mean, it’s no joke when I say I LOVE MAKING LISTS! In total, I have about nine to-do lists created within this app, which, in an of itself, helps me to manage my time, delegate tasks and decrease any work related anxiety I might be feeling. So let’s break down all the lists, I have a list for each member of the TCC Crew, this way I don’t forget what tasks they’re working on and where we are on certain projects, along with six of my own personal to-do lists. We have grocery shopping lists, clothing items to purchase for photo shoots lists, and my favorite list details to be confirmed prior to collaboration lists,

I mean I even have a list dedicated to YouTube video ideas, because nothing is worse than forgetting a brilliant spur of the moment idea. Anyway, this app is the first thing I see when I open my phone and the last thing I look at before I fall asleep at night, in fact, I’d say it’s a key to both my efficiency and success. I found that keeping each to-do list to a maximum of seven points helps keep task overflow to a minimum whilst still having a packed and successful day. 

2) Planoly – Being consistent with social media is a huge part of running a successful blog and Instagram account, but it’s no secret that posting at the right time each day is key to growing as well. In order to stay seen and on top of Instagram’s ever-changing algorithm, I use the app Planoly to lay out my feed for the week and set post reminders to my phone, alerting me when it’s the perfect time to post. I know it sounds extra but I do try to schedule all of my Instagrams and affiliated @liketoknow.it links for the week on Monday through this app, and then leave the caption to the day of. This keeps me in a flow of posting and helps me to stay consistent even on the days where I’m feeling burnt out

3) Weather App – I mean a big part of our business is creating content and good weather is essential for this. The weather can change like a blink of an eye in New England so having the weather app downloaded and the radar up and ready, helps me to see what rain spells we might bump into and which state or town we should head to for shooting. This app has been a huge lifesaver and has helped us become more efficient at knowing when to shoot and when to work inside and wait out the rain. 

4) Google Calendar – Surprisingly starting in 2018, and as our TCC Crew grew, conference calls started to become a weekly thing. Whether I have a call with a reporter, my beautiful manager, Cecelia or Tessa; I’m on the phone almost every Thursday all day long. And if I’m being honest I’ve been out or about once or twice and have missed a phone call meeting once or twice, which I knew had to stop. So I downloaded google calendar and turned on notifications, which means thirty minutes before each call I get a text reminding me of the meeting. This has been a game changer as it keeps me in line and on top of who I’ll be chatting with next on my busiest day of the week. 

5) Headspace – If you read my birthday post then you already know that I’m now hooked on meditating and I owe that all to Headspace. I can get anxious and overwhelmed over BASIC stuff easily. I mean I really don’t know why but sometimes things like scheduling tweets can feel more daunting than writing blog posts, so when the small stuff is making me sweat I turn to this app. The best part is that they offer three and even five-minute mediation sessions, which is a quick way to reset your thoughts in those crucial moments of mental defeat. Read more about my love for the app here. 

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Okay, that’s it. I’m actually writing this on my birthday and it’s actually the last thing on my reminder to-do list before clocking out. Now I’d love to hear from you…what is your favorite app to use for staying organized and on task? Let me know below! xx Aubrey

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Turning Twenty Four

May 31st, 2018

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Today is my Twenty Fourth birthday and to be honest as I look around, I never thought Matt and I would be where we are now. I mean, it has been a YEAR, to say the least. I usually like to share five things I’ve learned in my annual birthday posts but for a while there I debated not doing it. Twenty-three has been the definition of a hot mess but traditions are meant to be upheld no matter the circumstances, so let’s jump right in shall we! Here are five things I’ve learned from being twenty-three. Jcrew nautical ball earrings the coastal confidence Aubrey yandow

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You’ll Get Kicked When Your Down: 


 

I mean, remember when Matt and I had a flooded apartment? Then the following week got into a car accident and then the next week Matt and I went to San Francisco to get away from the chaos that was overwhelming us in Dallas only to get all of our luggage stolen on the first day. Um, let’s talk about getting kicked when you are down! I hate putting negativity out there but this year was rough. We had to learn a lot about ‘adulting’ the hard way and sometimes it felt like the nagging trial and tributes of life just wouldn’t stop but now I breathe in a sigh of relief as we’ve officially come full circle, but more on that later.

 

Meditation Is Key: 


 

Within the past year, after seeing other bloggers rave about it, I decided to start using the Headspace App, and oh boy am I glad I did. I’ve always had a really agitated and hectic mind. On the daily, my thoughts are here, there and everywhere which can cause me to feel rushed and flustered at times where I shouldn’t be. Which is why Headspace has been key. Basically, the Headspace App is a guided meditation app that helps you come to peace with the chaos going on inside. At first, I was a skeptic, I mean meditation really? But by setting aside just ten minutes a day for meditation, I’ve truly seen and felt a difference in how quickly I get agitated and how I deal with my mind when it gets into its flustered mindset. Anyway if you ever feel that way, flustered, agitated, angry or irritated I would try out Headspace.  

 

Growing & Letting People In: 


 

This year has been big for the TCC Crew. We’ve really grown and I’ve been able to watch the brand change and move due to our new crewmembers. Cecelia helps out with the day to day operational work, that is key to running a successful business while Tessa helps me on the creative side specifically YouTube. While growing your team is always ideal and a dream it also means giving up control and letting the crew members make mistakes and grow. I know when I started out mistakes were made but allowing others to make mistakes can be hard BUT there is no way I’d be where we are today without either of them. Cecelia allows me the time to create this great content and Tessa single-handedly produces our YouTube channel, both are godsends and I’m so glad I took the leap of faith to be vulnerable and let people into the back end and the not always pretty side of TCC. Lauren James gingham dress the coastal confidence

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Don’t Expect Anything: 


 

This year came with a lot of disappointments, from people. I’m someone that likes to invest in people wholeheartedly and I found myself continually being disappointed by people I came into contact with. Whether it was how they represent themselves, the actions they make, or their motives; I would find myself at some moments feeling either used, confused or just overlooked. I was just disappointed at the way others acted or what they expected from me. 

Which brings me to this point, Don’t Expect Anything from Anyone. I’m big on intention and I always try to give back, but throughout this year I was constantly seeing people acting with self-serving intentions more than anything else. After being disappointed and feeling frustrated more times than not, I quickly learned that I can’t control other’s actions. So I switched my perspective around and focused on my goals and to just not expect anything from anyone. Whether it be the good, the bad or the ugly. I mean you never know maybe someone will surprise you!

 

Being Financially Aware Is Important: 


 

I hate talking about finances and I really don’t know why. The whole situation makes me feel completely uncomfortable even though I was a finance major in college. To be honest, I think my sense of being uncomfortable around finances comes from my weak math skills and feeling flustered with numbers and percentages. But no matter how you want to avoid it finances are important for your present self but also your future self. Anyway, I want to do a whole video on this topic, is that something you’d want to watch? Kind of like a guide to financing your life in your twenties? Just throwing it out there and if it sounds good to you, leave a comment below with any questions you might have. New England lifestyle the coastal confidence Aubrey yandow

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Okay so that’s what I’ve learned. Sounds like a bummer of a year, but really it was lessons that needed to be learned. Anyway, it’s my birthday so I’m clocking out for the rest of the night! Off to watch Tessa at her dance recital and chow down on some seafood. xx Aubrey 

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New Englander’s Guide to Hydrangeas

May 28th, 2018

New Englander's Guide to Hydrangeas The Coastal ConfidenceYou know it’s summertime in New England when the hydrangeas start to bloom, and boy are they beautiful this year. The other day I posted this picture of hydrangeas on Instagram and instantly got an overwhelming amount of responses and DM’s asking me about the do’s and don’ts of hydrangeas. Now instead of responding to everyone’s questions individually, I figured I’d throw together this post as a sort of a New Englander’s Guide to Hydrangeas for you all to reference and have for years to come. 

Now let’s start this post off with a disclaimer, by no means am I a flower expert, rather this post will be a combination of information I’ve gathered from family and friends but most importantly through trial and error. Okay let’s jump right into it, shall we! 

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New Englander's Guide to Hydrangeas

Seed vs Shrub: I mean, shrub shrub shrub all the way. Never have I ever planted a seed to get a hydrangea bush, as I’m by no means patient enough for that. In fact I did some research and found out it could take up to three years to produce a garden center sized shrub. Basically, if you want to see hydrangea flowers in your New England yard in the near future go with a shrub!

Potted vs In-Ground: First and foremost it’s important to decide how you want to plant your hydrangeas. Personally, I’ve had a better experience with in-ground hydrangeas over potted hydrangeas but that also has a lot to do with our location. I’m lucky enough to have a backyard filled with partially shaded areas, which hydrangeas are known for thriving off of. In fact, my dad and I just planted three additional bushes this past Mother’s Day and were told by the garden expert to plant the shrubs a good distance apart, so they have room to thrive and grow to a mature size. Now if you have a backyard or front yard with full sunlight almost all day, maybe consider potting your hydrangeas on your porch or doorway to protect them from the direct sunlight. 

When Should You Plant Your Hydrangeas: You should aim to plant your hydrangeas in late spring, in fact right now would be a perfect time to plant them or wait until early fall. Aim for workable moist soil and mild temperatures, and at all costs avoid planting your hydrangeas directly before or after a frost. 

Water, With Love and Moderation: The key to keeping your hydrangeas alive and flourishing is to make sure they are hydrated and as I said earlier, in the partial shade. You want the soil to stay moist so pull out that watering hose once a day to give them a good soaking. You can always look at the leaves to see if they are burning or drying out due to lack of water. 

New Englander's Guide to Hydrangeas

New Englander's Guide to Hydrangeas
New Englander's Guide to Hydrangeas

Make It Blue, For Your Instagram Aesthetic: You know me and my love for a cohesive Instagram aesthetic so a big concern I had when planting hydrangeas was how to guarantee that they would be blue. I quickly did some research to find that if your hydrangeas pop up pink you can easily turn them to blue by adding more acidity to your soil. If you want to get scientifical, you can check the acidity levels of your soil before planting by using a pH meter, and ideally, you’d be looking for a 5.0 acidity level. To add acidity you can easily layer soil acidifier into the ground before planting or, if already planted, near the base of the plant. 

Cutting Your Blossoms: I mean, nothing says summertime in New England like a fresh bouquet of hydrangea blossoms in your kitchen. I always get excited when it’s time to cut my hydrangea blossoms but a good cutting technique is key to keeping your bouquets fresh and your shrubs thriving. I was told by my local garden center to cut hydrangea blossoms only once they’ve reached full bloom and at a 45-degree angle with a knife. Now, I’ve used scissors before with no issues, but they insisted to cutting with a knife in order to minimize damage to the shrub. They also recommend having a vase ready to go as hydrangeas should never spend much time out of water especially once having been cut. 

Getting Your Hydrangeas Ready For Winter: I mean, it is way too early to start thinking of winter but I’m just going to throw this in here so when the time comes we are just prepared. In late fall, or before the first frost, is the ideal time to prepare your shrubs for winter. First and foremost remove all of the flowers from the hydrangea bush, next cut down the stalks and stems of your bush while leaving about six inches of stem left. Oh and don’t forget to re-fertilize and water the plant prior to that first frost, this step is key in making sure your shrubs will make it through the cold winter months New England brings to the table. 

Okay guys, I mean this was a hefty post. A lot of information and a lot of flower talk but hopefully this gives you the inspiration to test out your own green thumb this summer. I mean when in New England, hydrangea!  

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5 Books To Bring To The Beach This Summer

May 22nd, 2018

 

It’s finally starting to feel warm enough in New England to make the treacherous voyage to our historic and notable beach towns. Whether you’re traveling to Watch Hill for a day at the beach or to Provincetown for a weekend getaway, I’ve got you covered when it comes to beach reads. If I’m being honest, the only place I ever seem to be able to read is actually at the beach. Maybe it’s the cooling breeze or the calming sound of the waves crashing along the shore, or maybe a combo of the two, but the one thing I know for sure is that it’s my ideal place to catch up on my reading list. 

The beach seems to be the only place that can block out the sound of social media and lock me into the present moment or rather the current pages I’m reading. Whenever I sit down to unpack my reading books at the beach I always get a chuckle from my friends as my taste is as basic and obscure as it could get. From cheesy romance books to self-help books, I’m usually reading at least three books at a time depending on my mood and depth of attentiveness. So I decided I’d share the exact books I brought with me to my most recent trip to the beach in the video above and I’ve also listed an extensive review of each book below! 5 Books To Bring To The Beach This Summer The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

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#1 The Power of Habit – I was able to finish the entity of this book on my plane ride to Costa Rica, which is incredible because I’m basically the slowest reader ever. I love books that open up the conversation about self-reflection and self-improvement, or as my Mom calls them ‘self-help’. Some people might think these books are full of s*** but I say otherwise, this book focuses strongly on how our daily habits affect our success in the long term, whilst pointing out triggers and ways we can rework some of the most habilitating habits one might have. If you’re looking for a little inspiration or feeling stuck in route, this book will 100% push you towards your best self. 

#2 Commonwealth – Drama Lamas. I mean, it wouldn’t be Aubrey’s reading list if drama wasn’t involved. This coming of age book brings the reader through all the emotions of a struggling blended family. This book has been at the top of my reading list for some time, and to learn more you’ll just have to read it for yourself. 

#3 The Daily Stoic – I live by this book. I mean it’s a pretty easy book to live by because it only requires you to read one page a day, yes just one. No matter where I travel or what I’m doing, I always make time either at the beginning or end of my day, to sit down and read my daily devotion. Written by Ryan Holiday, this stoic themed book, is filled with thought-provoking daily quotes and reflections. Whenever I feel frustrated or stuck I often flip through this book for inspiration, I highly recommend purchasing this book to leave at your office desk. 

#4 Surprise Me I started this romantic comedy book while traveling to San Francisco in February. Now if I’m being honest, I still haven’t finished it but from what I’ve read it’s basically the perfect beach read! 

#5 Presence – In honor of being honest, I have to admit that this book is a slow read. While it is extremely relevant to putting your best foot forward, I often found myself rereading passages to better comprehend the material. In fact, I’d say this is the most dutiful book on my reading this, and would suggest reaching for this book if you’re in a quiet space and willing to give your full attention.

Anyway, We are so excited to bring you guys more videos soon, so make sure to subscribe to our channel here and check out our last video upload here!

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Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence

May 21st, 2018

Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey YandowWhether we are talking about food, movies or even bathing suits one thing is for sure, I know what I like and I stick to it, end of story. Call it being stubborn, boring or self-aware, in the end, I always choose the food I know I’ll like, no vegan food here, the movies I know won’t give me nightmares, and the fit of a suit that will make me feel confident and covered on the beach. I mean trends are great for inspiration and adaptation but feeling confident is all about having the right fit, am I wrong? 

For the longest time, I never shared pictures of myself in bathing suits on my feed or on this platform because I’m a conservative person by nature. I like midi skirts over minis, I’ve never owned a crop top I haven’t returned and I live by a good turtleneck for most of the year. So in previous years, whenever swim season came along I always dreaded finding a new suit, because there wasn’t a ton of options for one-piece suits in general. Until this year…

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Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

I’m going to be truthfully transparent in this post because I think finding your confidence on the beach has way more to do with knowing your own body and knowing what works for you, fit wise, more than anything else. So let’s break down my body, shall we? I’m 5′ 2”, size 6 and around 125 pounds, give or take a few pounds depending on the week. I carry most of my weight in my derriere and have proportional but petite limbs. Which brings me to why I like a one piece. 

The main reasons why I like a good one piece is that it contains my backend business to put it lightly. I use to feel so self-conscience about my butt hanging out, especially with the low rise bottoms that were usually paired with my two piece swim sets. Honestly, I could care less about the status of my stomach but was oh so obsessed with the concern of my bathing suit bottoms falling off! I mean I was like a serial flasher at the beach, from just simply jumping off the boat or getting hit with a big wave somehow someway, I felt embarrassed. 

Now once, I hit college and found myself spending more time at the beach in San Diego, I turned towards one-piece swimsuits. By college I knew my body, I knew what I was anxious about before heading to the beach and I purchased swimsuits accordingly. I mean this small switch in mindset about purchasing bathing suits on fit over trend, made all the difference for me and finding my beach confidence. The moment I found a one piece that allowed me to be active and move without concern, was the moment I felt my most carefree and myself on the beach. 

Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

Let’s say your stomach is something that concerns you, style this classic red peplum tankini top or let’s say you want to keep your bellybutton incognito like Taylor Swift did way back when…just try out this high waisted French inspired swimsuit. Or maybe you want to show off your rock solid abs, take this one piece with side cutouts for a spin. You get my point, but now more than ever we have almost unlimited choices when it comes to swimsuit fits so why not take advantage of it and try something different. 

Before heading on my most recent trip to Costa Rica, I decided to give their Playa collection a spin. I loved how this specific collection showed off skin in the back while still covering up the majority of my butt. Not only was it a little sexier than your average one piece but it also had high cut legs which make my little 5’2” legs look a little more 5’6” in person. I kid, I kid. Okay but really, in the end, it comes down to finding flattering fits so take some time and check out some of the bathing suits I’ve linked below. I’ll be damned before I hear another gal pass about a beach trip because they aren’t beach ready. I mean I’m never beach ready, in fact, I’m headed to McDonald’s right now to get a quick lunch before working some more, but I’m always ready for the beach. Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
Why I Felt Insecure at The Beach, And How I Found My Confidence | The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow

I’d love to hear from you now, what is something you’ve felt insecure about and how do you turn the tables on your insecurities to feel confident at the beach? Let me know below and love you all. xx Aubrey

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Why Good Relationships Aren’t Always Convenient

May 12th, 2018
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Matt and I have had one heck of a week, and as we gear up for summer and some upcoming changes Matt decided to help out by sitting down and ‘writing’ this blog post for me’. I say ”writing’ with quotation marks because Matt’s idea of writing consists of walking around with his apple earbuds in saying he has writer’s block, and trying to flatter me into writing the post for him, which I guess worked out in his favor because here I am Friday night having to write the post for him because half of this post isn’t written.
 
This blog post was originally supposed to be a break down of all the places we’ve traveled, including which one was our favorite and what each place means to us; but Matt seemed to have taken a different direction with this post, so I’ll just roll with it. Today Matt is sharing why good relationships aren’t always convenient. Sooo we’ll just jump right into it and let Matt take it away.
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Why Good Relationships Aren't Always Convenient The Coastal Confidence Aubrey Yandow
Why Good Relationships Aren't Always Convenient The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
Aubrey and I have been dating for quite some time and through those years we have been fortunate enough to travel to many different countries and cities. From the beaches of Aruba to the jungles of Costa Rica, we have been able to taste the food, experience day-to-day life and connect with different cultures throughout the world. Even though we’ve visited several more tropical places, Aruba, Costa Rica, St. Martin and Punta Cana; I still think our best vacation together was going to Ireland. In fact, Ireland was the first place Aubrey and Tessa decided to vlog, so if you missed our Ireland blog content make sure to check out all the vlogs: Cobh Vlog, Ring of Kerry Vlog, Cliff of Moher Vlog and Falconry School Vlog. Aubrey and I love hearing about the history surrounding us and are excited to explore more of Europe but one thing is for sure, we aren’t always on the same page when traveling. 
 
We get a lot of questions from you guys about how we manage to maintain our relationship especially after moving in together, living together and our more frequently asked question, how to manage constantly be around each other while traveling. The taboo answers to these questions would be ‘relationships are a lot of work’ or ‘we’re just best friends and always love being together’, which I guess is true but really, I think there is an easier answer. To be honest our relationship isn’t a convenience it’s a choice. When you’re single you are the captain, you can do what you want whenever you want. You can cook dinner for one whenever you’re hungry, you can move and live in whatever city without consulting another, and finally, you can make your own schedule selfishly and ruthlessly. I mean in a perfect world that’s how it would be in a relationship but there is no I in team, am I right!?
 
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Okay, before I get heat for this post let me clear one thing up, your days should never revolve around someone else but in order to maintain a relationship through phases of your life, you’ll need to form a partnership, which means you are one part of a bigger thing. Actually, we’ve seen our friends through a lot of relationships and a lot of the time it doesn’t work out because no one wants to compromise their short-term happiness.  Swallowing your pride and opening your life, schedule, and home to another isn’t easy. At first, it seems fun and exciting but it gets hard, and it’s a constant give and take. I’m sure people have judged Aubrey and I’s relationship especially when she decided to move to Dallas for my career but we knew as a partnership we were in this together. Was it convenient for her no, was it convenient for me to be taking blog photos of her all weekend long to make up for the time away from her TCC photographer Tessa, no but this relationship is ours, it’s not convenient and it’s tough but it works. 
 
To be blunt if you want a relationship to work, you’ll make it work. So don’t you worry if you’re going through your relationship thinking it should be easier or prettier, because Aubrey and I have waded some rough tides. But in the end all the inconvenience our relationship brings is overpowered by all the moments together like this and if you don’t find those moments overpowering the inconvenience a good relationship might bring then maybe it’s time to sit yourself down for a talk. We each make small sacrifices and bring our own baggage to the table, but each trial is worth it for our overall goal. Aubrey and I make sure to let the other know how much we appreciate each other for the work, patience and confidence we have in our journey. I mean, things get weird, they get messy and a lot of moving boxes are involved but these perfect moments make every little inconvenience like Aubrey’s crazy love of 12 AM Walmart runs worth it. 
 
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Why Good Relationships Aren't Always Convenient The Coastal Confidence by Aubrey Yandow
 
 Hey guys, it’s Aubrey again, I hope this post made you realize that Matt and I’s relationship is by no means perfect but rather always a game of trades. We’re both strong headed people but in the end, we move together to support each other in our goals and passions. In today’s times it can be so easy to focus on ourselves and what is important to us, Me Myself and I (am I right), but don’t let the idea of not getting your way stop you from pursuing the trials and tribulations of a relationship. 
 
I mean, who knows if Matt and I would even be together if I had made the choice to stay in New England and send him to Dallas on his own. I guess we’ll never know what the fate had in mind but I do know a move that started off as a major inconvenience for me has allowed me to grow as a person, business owner, and most importantly Matt’s stylist.
 
Which brings me to my next point how cute is the Vineyard Vines couple assemble? If you watched our how to improve your boyfriend’s style video you already know how obsessed Matt is with Vineyard Vines breaker pants, its a go-to for any special occasion. Oh and you can catch me in this light-weight embroidered dress all summer long, I’ve never gotten so many compliments on a striped dress before. Not only is it the perfect shift shape but it also looks great when paired with a jean jacket for cool New England evenings on The Vineyard. Okay, that’s all I have for you guys and please leave a comment below with your opinion on this article, would love to hear your relationship advice/thoughts.  
 
 
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An Introvert Guide To Maneuver a Week-Long Group Vacation

April 26th, 2018

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I’ve always been a huge fan of personality tests, and I know I’m not alone here. If you’ve never taken a personality test before stop what you are doing and take this test real quick. The first time I ever took a personality test was for one of my management classes in business school and to say it’s enlightening is an understatement. I’ve actually had the same personality type since I took the test way back in 2012, and each time I reread my personality description it’s like hitting the nail on the head. Now whether you love personality tests like me, or hate them like Matt, it’s good to know what makes you jive and what burns you out. Which brings me to basically the nutshell of this post, how this INFJ maneuvered a week-long group vacation. 

If I’m being honest with you all I have always hated group activities. I mean, going to camp as a kid was a hard pass for me, in college, I attended the bare minimum of group activities required of me and I even avoided group sports, which is why I loved the swim team. I love being around people but I don’t necessarily ever want to be the center of attention or have to compete for a group’s attention. I mean it’s just not me. I hate the craziness of groups and I really value quality time with people over quantity. And if I’m being transparent  I just don’t think I get that quality time I need with people in a big group. I guess to sum it up my best friend in the entire world lives in San Francisco and even though I basically see her maybe once a year, she’s still my best friend because we always make room in our schedules for that quality time. We’ll call each other to just catch up and just have that present one-on-one time. I mean Jennifer sometimes knows more about the happenings in my life than anyone else because we both jive off of authenticity and present moments, not late night drinking confessions. 

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Okay before I get down and dirty with how I survived a group vacation, ‘champagne problems’ I know, but let’s chat about this outfit. The weekend before heading to Costa Rica I ran into J.Crew to return a bathing suit that didn’t fit and ended up leaving the store with wayyyy to much stuff. But what’s new!  When I walked into J.Crew I instantly fell in love with this retro pink jumpsuit, effortlessly styled on the mannequin and had to try it on. Matt has the most brutal fashion advice/criticism and I was shocked when I walked out of the fitting room and he LOVED the look. With Matt’s surprising approval and finally fitting into a jumpsuit that wasn’t too long for my 5′ 3″ body, I purchased the jumpsuit and paired it with these cat-eyed sunglasses and nautical ball earrings. It was probably my favorite look of all vacation and I think you can tell that by the energy of these photos. 

Okay now back to this group-vacation breakdown. Now, when I first found out that my dad decided to do a large group vacation I was raising the veto flag and waving it hard. For the longest time, I thought I avoided big groups because of social anxiety but really I avoid them because they just burn me the heck out. I jive off of getting to really know people one on one, hearing their thoughts, what they stand for and my favorite talking topic their life plans. I mean I love a strategic future more than anyone you’ve ever met. But my dad was pretty set on having a huge group vacation, so I used a few of the following tricks to keep my energy levels up and my attitude positive. 

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+ Have An Alone Day: I always say I’m an introverted extrovert. I always seem to be thrown into a decision-making position in the group, whether it is picking a restaurant, making the plans for an excursion or even something as simple as booking the hotel or checking people into airline flights. Somehow someway, I always end up with the power to make the decision, maybe that’s because by nature I’m a decisive person, but nothing drains me out more than having to make decisions for a large group of people who don’t want to make a decision. 

So halfway through the vacation, my sister Tessa and I decided to part from the group and have an alone day, and to be honest, it was probably one of my favorite days of the vacation. Having quality time with Tessa one on one, having space and clarity to create amazing video content and recharge my battery, was exactly what I needed to finish off the vacation strong. I did the same thing in Italy when I went with Jennifer for three weeks. While in Italy I passed on one of the excursions and took my laptop to a local cafe to sip on cappuccinos and watch the Lizzie McGuire movie ALONE. Maybe that’s weird but it was exactly what I needed to feel re-inspired. 

+ Do What Makes You Jive: I honestly work seven days a week from the moment I open my eyes to the moment I rest my head on my pillow and I LOVE IT! I mean I love every part of the process, from shooting the content to writing the content to actually getting to share it all with you all, I LOVE IT. I’m the happiest when I’m working, and for the first three days of vacation, I tried to ‘take a vacation’ from my job which was a rookie mistake. 

I did all the correct steps, I put my Out Of The Office reply message on all my contact forms and decided I’d check out for the full week…which ended quickly. By the third day of vacation I felt completely burnt out, I was literally over vacation and craving work. Weird? Maybe, but ruining The Coastal Confidence is what gives me energy so I quickly ended up diving back into work.

Of course, I wanted to fit in with the group and go out late for late night bar shenanigans but I just can’t do that on the daily. For people like Matt and my dad, who are strong extroverts, bar shenanigans are life to them but for me being at a bar is draining, I’d much rather be outside on the patio responding to your DMs or calling photos from that days shoot. Doing what makes you jive doesn’t mean your anti-social it means you’re putting yourself first. 

+ Try And Carve Out Alone Time With Individuals on The Trip: Again this one was essential for me to survive a week-long group vacation. Whenever I’m in a group bigger than six I just check out, I don’t even do it on purpose it’s just my personality. So I used moments like car rides, walks, or late night snacking sessions with whoever was in the kitchen, to get that quality time I really wanted. 

I mean did I get a chance to get to know everyone on vacation, no. In fact, I think I saw Matt like once the whole vacation, and that was for a photoshoot, BUT I did get to spend some quality time with people I rarely get to see. If you’re an introvert heading on a big group vacation maybe try to plan lunch dates or breakfast runs with the people you really want to get to know, hopefully, that tactic will give you the quality time you need. 

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Okay, that’s all the tips I have for introverts heading on a group vacation. In the end, I had a blast on vacation. Now, would I do another large group vacation over 10 people again, of course. The trip was so much fun and I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way, but I’m curious what personality are you?

Leave a comment below with your personality type or if you don’t want to take the test your horoscope sign below. I’m a Gemini which basically sums up my introverted extrovert personality, to the tee. 

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Why Strategic Goal Setting Is Key: For Your Business & Life

April 16th, 2018

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Happy Monday. I feel like this is the perfect Monday morning post to read and hopefully, it will get you excited and motivated for the week to come. Today I’m sharing some #tbt images with you all as the weather hasn’t been coroprating with our recent photoshoot schedule. But we are just going to roll with it, and sit down with you all to talk about the one skill you need to master to turn your side hustle into a successful business, so pull up a chair, grab a cup of coffee and take notes. When push comes to shove running your own flourishing blog, brand or even life comes down to being able to effectively create and manage a to-do. It’s honestly as simple as that, think I’m wrong? Well, below we will dive into why it’s important to implement to-do lists within your business and how to create an optimized to-do list of your own. 


 

Why…


 

I know what you’re thinking, Aubrey, you’re putting way too much weight on a silly to-do list, but give it a chance, and stay with me. A classic handwritten to-do list is how I’ve not only successfully learned to manage myself, but also each member of the TCC Crew, and it’s been a game changer when it comes to our performance, communication and meeting brand timelines. If that hasn’t sold you on creating a to-do list of your own, here are specific examples of why you should. 

+ My Unpopular viewpoint on goals: Goals are the first step in turning your idea into a business but don’t stop at the first step. I’ve been blogging for over five years now and in that timespan, I’ve seen so many acquaintances start blogs and brands, to only quickly abandon them within the first year. I’m very transparent about how slow growth can seem in the digital space. Yes going viral overnight and waking up to millions of subscribers is #goals but it isn’t realistic. If you are serious about taking your passion project into something more you really need to set up systems, aka goal based to-do lists. Goals just don’t happen, recognizing the endpoint is important, but to accomplish the goal you actually need to put in hard work. Whenever our crew comes up with a goal we make a to-do list to support it. The to-do list usually includes three to seven steps we need to take to reach that goal. Without our to-do lists, our goals would honestly be less likely to accomplish due to the fact that goals can seem overwhelming or impossible at times. Which brings me to my next point. 

+ Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did.” —Newt Gingrich: I mean that quote basically sums it up. When you are trying to launch a new brand, business or trying to finish college with a four-year degree on time; at some point in your journey, you are going to feel overwhelmed with all that has to get done and the amount of work on your plate. This is where to-do lists really come in handy. When you are a student or self-employed you are single handily in charge of managing yourself and meeting your deadlines. No one is telling you how to spend your time, which is a blessing and a curse. You could work all day and binge The Crown at night or you could sleep all day and work all night; it doesn’t matter when you do the work it just has to get done. This is something I thrive on but it also means I’m responsible for making sure I have all my deliverables ready for multiple deadlines, that can get overwhelming at times. To-do lists help me stay on track and work as a buffer to my deadlines. I make sure to complete everything listed on my to-do list within the day before clocking out. No excuses! I stop working when my to-do list is done for better or for worse. 

+ Accountability: Finally I share my to-do list with my entire TCC Crew and their to-do lists with each other, for a few important reasons. My favorite part about to-do lists is the simple fact that either you did the task or you didn’t do it. No excuses. It makes tasks black and white while holding everyone accountable for their part in completing a goal. Together we revisit our to-do lists, as a crew, weekly and break down what we completed and what we didn’t. Being accountable to my crew, sharing the list with your friends, mom, sisters, whoever; makes your to-do list a done list quicker than you would think. 

Okay so if you have something you really want to accomplish first sit down and write down your goals followed by a goal system to-do list. Trust me when I say, this will make all the difference in not only making your goals a reality but also seeing results in real time instead of expecting all your goals to be accomplished overnight. Now let’s jump into how I create my to-do lists. 

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How…


 

+ Write It Down: Recently I’ve stumbled upon this productivity planner, which actually inspired me to write this post. Now normally I would use this exact system within a dollar store notepad, I try not to spend too much money on notebooks as I often lose them, but I decided to splurge on the planner in hopes of inspiring you all to get your to-do lists in check. First and foremost, writing down your goals is really important to actually achieve them. I mean who hasn’t ended up on Facebook after opening up their computer to do a specific task. By writing down your goals and keeping the notepad visible throughout your day helps you regain focus when focus has been lost. 

 

+ Ranking Tasks: I love this productivity planner because it ranks tasks in order of importance. This organizing system has helped my to-do list become at least twice as efficient as before. Naturally, you want to get the easy tasks done with first, for instance, writing next week’s blog posts are always on my weekly to-do list but they aren’t necessarily something I need to tackle first in order to move my business forward. I mean, I know I’ll get them done but do they need to be completed bright and early on Monday morning? Not really. Take time to prioritize your tasks and tackle harder tasks earlier in the week helps me keep up the blog’s momentum and also gives me extra time if my first tactic to completing the task fails. 

 

+ Reflection: It is super important at the end of the week to reflect on your to-do lists/goals. Did you not check something off of your list because you didn’t try? Or because the tactic you were using to accomplish that goal failed? It’s important to reflect and pivot your to-do list in order to keep yourself aware and in charge of your goals. If there’s a will there’s a way right!


 

Ending on that note, I’m off. Matt and I are currently in Costa Rica, so make sure to follow along with our adventures over on Instagram. Oh and you bet I brought my to-do list book to Costa Rica, I love working while traveling, I always think of the best ideas…am I the only one? Anyway, leave a comment below if you love or hate to-do lists. I’m interested to hear what you guys think of them and have a great week. 

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How To Improve Your Boyfriends Style, This Spring

April 4th, 2018

If I’m being honest with you all, which I always strive to do, then I have to tell you that this is one of my favorite videos we’ve filmed to date. Today Matt and I are sitting down to share our style evolution, how I improved Matt’s style, and how you can improve your boyfriend’s style this spring. I would much rather style guys than gals because as a whole I think their style is more malleable. Basically, they are easier to ‘influence’ when it comes to testing out new looks, trying new styles and investing in new brands. 

I really hope you guys find this video helpful and learn a thing or two. As always PLEASE reach out with any questions or any boyfriend makeover stories of your own. I mean, we all know the best part of a movie is the makeover! On that note which movie makeover is your favorite? I think mine would be Princess Diaries for sure. We are so excited to bring you guys more videos soon, so make sure to subscribe to our channel here and check out our last video upload here!

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